Don’t get misconstrued by the title. I respect all races, genders, political agendas, and religions. But where does that leave the Straight Black Woman?
We fought for our freedom, for equality by race and gender. We fought for our Black Men and our Children.But where does that leave the Straight Black Woman? We fought for you and we fought for me. We even fought for the LBGT community to be married but where does that leave the Straight Black Woman? We fought for injustice when our Black Men were falsely imprisoned and murdered in the streets by each other and by racist Police. We fought for equality so our Black Men could get higher wages, more educational and professional opportunities. But where does this leave the Straight Black Woman? We fought for our Males who were stopped and frisked. We fought for our impregnated females who were abandoned from all of this.
Some of these girls turned their back on Black Men and some vowed to never be with a man again. So females are dating females, okay more Black Men for me, that would be logical except that some of the Black Men want Black Men and some Black Men are now Black Women just like me! I understand it’s not a choice for sexuality but instead of courting each other we now have to compete. Now I know that’s an extreme version of reality and these are generalizations but there is something going on in society and it feels like I’m on the losing team. I want to know where does that leave the Straight Black Woman?
We support our men. We want a solid foundation so we can continue to give birth to future Black generations. We need a Straight Black Man to balance and create a family. We support you and love you yet in return what do we see? Latin Girls are a Black Man’s weakness, White women treat Black Men better, Asian women are a Black Man’s fantasy, but Black Men are quick to turn a loyal Black Woman into a dreadful “Baby Mama” or call a Black Woman a Bad B. The more we uplift you the more you disrespect. The more we love you the more you neglect.
I look at my timeline, I observe interactions in real life, and I see inclusion of Biracial couples and LGBT couples being promoted and supported in full force by the world including me. But where does that leave the Straight Black Woman? Where are the Straight Black Men that are standing up and fighting for Straight Black Women? Where are the Straight Black Men that are serious about and ready for Straight Black Women? Where are the Straight Black Men that are loyal, faithful, and honorable to Straight Black Women? I know you exist and I know you are out there. But as a Straight Black Woman we need you to exaggerate your support because now we Need you to support us with the same ferociousness of which we supported you.
This might ruffle some feathers and it is not meant to be offensive but I intend to rock the boat. A little shock and awe won’t hurt you it’s just my reality from which I spoke. Even though it may have suited you better, I do not sugar coat. Just because my truth isn’t in your favor doesn’t make it false. Everyone has their own causes, agendas, and groups they affiliate with. I have the same rights as you so if you don’t like it, deal with it. I respect all races, genders, orientations, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera BUT as a straight Black woman I want to know where is the love for women like me? It seems like it’s okay to have Gay pride but I’m a Straight Black Woman and that I will not hide. I want to know who is fighting for me? Who is standing up for those like me? When I see those comments and posts on my timeline and on pages that all give praise to other races and then look down on Black women, most might not admit it but it is upsetting. What does that say about your mothers or the Black women in your families? When you say those things you’re disrespecting them too even if you choose not to see.
You respect natural women but chase after Remy weaves with made up faces. They know all the wrong pronunciations for designer labels and don’t even know that Africa is a continent and not one giant nation. You claim you want wives but you “wife” stripper or “model” whores and then wonder why your children go to school looking good and come home with low scores. When I see posts about women that look like me all I see mentioned is Bad B’s, thickness and nakedness. THE BLACK MAN HAS BECOME NO WORSE THAN THE OPPRESSORS THAT TURNED OUR WOMEN INTO COMFORT GIRLS AND PROSTITUTES AND PLACED THEM IN ZOOS. We deserve better, Black men you can do better, and you know that it’s true.
You may not think so but you are doing the same thing as them Black man. Stop all that disrespect about the mother’s of your children. I know it’s not all but it’s far too many. I witness Black men degrading their Black women publicly and in front of their daughters who will grow up to be Black women, so what are you teaching those little girls that will grow up to look like me? What are you teaching those little boys born from Black women like me? Black men you have to be mindful of what you say and do and if you love Black women then you have to show and prove it everything that you do. But where is the love for straight Black women like me?
You see Black man, we adore you. We know your worth as emperors which is why we fight for you. You are our fathers, brothers, and sons. We are your mothers, sisters, and daughters. We need each other for our people to continue to exist in this world. Wife and husband =procreation and reproduction. Creating offspring is how the circle of eternal life, the Ankh can win. Its starts with the womb, the Holy Spirit, the Queen Mother.
But while we are checking for you, you are checking for them and some of you are even checking for him. Pants sagging for availability, some changed their gender so now you look like me, and some are doing who knows what in the penitentiaries, Churches, and universities. Now that’s not a dig or “shade” its facts from reality. We used to check for each other and now we are in competition so again I ask. Where does that leave the Straight Black woman? Gay men love us and some are our best friends. Sure men of other races would love to be with us and it’s very tempting, I’m not even going to pretend. Some of us even ventured out and turned our backs on each other BUT some of us don’t want another. Some of us just love our Emperors. Some of us just love Brothers. So as a straight Black woman who loves straight Black men, I ask you again. This is not an attack Black man but a wake up call because we are here for you, we love you and have your back through it all. Where is the love, respect, loyalty, admiration, support, affection and protection for the straight Black woman from the straight Black man?